The thing i hate most about Facebook is that you have a false sense of who your real friends are. On Fb i have 427 friends.. I find it odd considering in real life, i can really count on two hands who my REAL friends are. Who are all these other people ? Where did they come from?
The past mainly. Some are friends/family that live far away (and are the ONLY reason im still on there, to be honest), and of course parents and contacts from my daughters school.
Lately i have been feeling like the butt of peoples jokes, the fool that believes people might actually value my friendship. Silly me.
I have noticed that recently it seems that some moms are turning into those Mean Girls from middle school. Where, if you aren't wearing the right thing, parenting their way, driving the right car, or apart of the PTA you are NOTHING.
I have 2 best friends. They love me. I don't need to list why i think that because they make me feel that i am. No excuses. No judgements, just love. Other than those two awesome and amazing friends, i have my husband, and thank God that i do. I dont know how i would get past all these catty women with out them. They are my sounding boards, my therapists, my attitude adjusters, my Kleenex holders, my givers of honesty.
I have been debating if all this drama i am around is worth it. I HATE the word "unfriend". I loathe the song, "Unfriend You" by that whiney kid on the Disney Channel. But when is enough enough. What would someone have to do to get unfriended.. How am i showing them the love of God if i wont be their friend. Im supposed to love not hate.
My daughter is 9. We have already had to deal with mean girls, drama, and that you dont have to be friends with everyone but you do have to be nice to everyone. Why cant i learn that lesson for my self? why is it that i NEED to be liked. Why am i not secure enough to care whether i am liked or not.
Well heres what i have come up with. I love people. I love relationships. i love REAL relationships. i love quality time and quantity time. I dont care who you are, who you love, what you wear, what kind of car you drive, how rich you are, how poor you are, how many kids you have. I care that you are capable of loving me. I care that you treat me with kindness and compassion. I care that you value my time and friendship and not because if what you will get out of this relationship. I dont have alot to give. but i have time and i have compassion . Do you need that kind of friend?
if you do, we can be friends.
